ALONE ≠ LONELY

People are often alone. They may actually prefer to be alone or they may not. Anyhow this doesn't mean they are lonely or anti-social. As Tennessee Williams wrote, “When so many are lonely as seem to be lonely, it would be inexcusably selfish to be lonely alone.” You may feel lonely but chances are, you're NOT.

It's not bad being alone. And it’s not bad being lonely. Both words have a whole different meaning though. Being alone, can  bring you to a level as if you were with someone else or even grater. This somehow you need to balance. The time you spend with others, the time you spend with yourself and the time others spend with you. Being alone, only has to do with yourself and your own mind. Being lonely doesn't mean that you're in your room with the door closed and don’t want to talk to anyone. You can feel lonely even the same time you're out hanging with tons of friends. You can still feel lonely when you're out dancing, or when you're at school. You can feel lonely like anytime BUT remember you're not alone.

Many people instead of being alone, would rather go out with someone they don't really like, or they don't have much interests in common, and they don't even communicate, so they go out just because they are afraid of being alone. The thing is they are lonely. Even when they are with another person they still feel lonely. The feeling of being lonely is a level below of being afraid. So that person is afraid of being alone because of loneliness they feel. Sounds complex but the truth is, it's NOT!

So instead of going out, or hang out with someone you don't really like, BE ALONE. Being alone is something we all are in need of. even when don't understand it. We should do things we previously avoided because of the avoid-being-alone principles. Being alone somewhere, can teach you things you can't imagine. You can grow the inside of you just by "listening" and paying attention to yourself. Give yourself the time it needs so to give you more. ONLY when we are alone we have the space we need so to think about us, without being influenced by others.

You should feel proud if you're alone, and not feeling lonely because THAT way, you truly understand whatever feelings are culminating within.

regards,

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